“6 Myths About Virginity” is a must read yo. Check it out and be blessed…
I do implore everyone to read this post. So many lessons to be learnt in it. And I also encourage you to do further research yourself.
A while ago I began a series called ‘The Misconceptions of Christianity’. This is the second part of that series and on this we will be speaking about Relationships being a selling point to Christianity.
So lately everyone is talking about relationships, whether it’s relationship goals, marriage goals or dating. This gets even more intense within the young Christian community. You repeatedly hear them saying “all I want is a prayerful man / woman”, ‘Godly relationship’, marriage, not having sex and etc…
Now before I go any further I need to make this clear…I am not saying that you shouldn’t speak about or desire these things, because I know they are a blessing. I for one know what it is like to be in a wonderful relationship with an amazing individual and the joy that comes with this. Also, I am not saying that marriage is unimportant, no that is not it at all.
Now let’s get into the word.
(1 Corinthians 7:29-31 AMP)
29 I mean, brethren, the appointed time has been winding down and it has grown short. From now on, let even those who have wives be as if they had none,
30 And those who weep and mourn as though they were not weeping and mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they did not possess anything,
31 And those who deal with this world [overusing the enjoyments of this life] as though they were not absorbed by it and as if they had no dealings with it. For the outward form of this world (the present world order) is passing away.
The first thing I want you to get from this scripture is in the first verse (v29), where Paul makes it clear that the time is short. Jesus used a similar phrase in Luke 21, saying “The time is drawing near” both of them were talking about the hour of salvation. Our time on this earth is very short. If we look back in the Old Testament most of the people who lived after Adam live till they were 800-900yrs old. Paul is saying here that we don’t have enough time to focus on worldly / earthly desires.
Paul is saying that this world and its present form is passing away. Marriage is a worldly desire, it is not eternal.
(Matthew 22:30 AMP) Jesus says “ For in the resurrection state neither do [men] marry nor are [women] given in marriage, but they are like the angels in heaven.”
Jesus tells us in this verse that it is not eternal, it will all pass away. So we need to come to a point that we realise that our salvation (Relationship with God) is the only priority we should have in our lives.
Jesus is saying that all the things of these world are temporary, they are all for the now, they are for the world. They have no part to play when you leave this world so you can’t make them your focus or priority.
Colossians 3 (AMP)
If then you have been raised with Christ [to a new life, thus sharing His resurrection from the dead], aim at and seek the [rich, eternal treasures] that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God.
2 And set your minds and keep them set on what is above (the higher things), not on the things that are on the earth.
3 For [as far as this world is concerned] you have died, and your [new, real] life is hidden with Christ in God.
4 When Christ, Who is our life, appears, then you also will appear with Him in [the splendour of His] glory.
In here the Bible is telling us that all those desires, dreams and ambitions you had while you were still in the world should be history when you come to Christ. Now your priority should be Christ, you shouldn’t desire anything else but Him. Let your relationship, marriage etc…be a by-product of your relationship with God.
You are now required to set your minds on the things of the Kingdom of God, the things of the heavenly realms. And marriage isn’t one in terms of, it shouldn’t be your end goal.
Finally when Christ returns, when the end time comes, the things that you made priority will then speak for themselves, so those who made Christ their priority will rise with Him.
Matthew 6:33 (AMP) “ But seek (aim at and strive after) first of all His Kingdom and His Righteousness (His way of doing and being right), and then all these things taken together will be given you besides.”
You don’t have time to make your relationship, marriage or financial state your priority. Your main focus should be The Will of God (Purpose)
My biggest concern is that some of you started going to church (fellowship) because you wanted a happy family. You wanted a happy relationship, you dream of a happy marriage and you realised that God can grant you that. Absolutely the God of the universe can grant you that but if that’s your motivation. Your reason for following God because you want a godly man / woman, healthy relationship / marriage, a good family then you’ve got it all wrong. The thing is, if that’s your reason and motivation then God has become a means to an end for you. Your end is the ‘happy relationship, marriage, family’ and you believe God can lead you to that. But the problem is God has suddenly become someone that you use to get to your end goal rather than you believing that God is the end Himself.
If this is your desire then these things have become your idol and you are no different, than the person who becomes a Christian because they are after wealth and prosperity. You are no different than the person who said “I want to be rich, I want to have a great job, big house, lots of money so I’m going to go to church because I know God will give me these things”, “I heard that if I follow Jesus then I’ll never be sick again and I’ll never lack so I’m going to go and follow Him.”
See, what God wants for us on this earth is not for us to say “if I can have God then I’ll be rich, have a good marriage and be in an amazing family”. No! What He wants you to say is “Because I Have God I Am Rich” “Because I have God I am in a Good Relationship” “Because I Have God then I Will Have a Good Marriage” “Because I Have God then I Am part of a Great Family, I’m a Child of God, what more could I ask for.” He wants you to use all these things to display His love for us, not use Him to aid our desire for these things.
To truly have an amazing relationship with God, to truly know that we are a part of Him, to strive for nothing more than to please Him and be a clear example of Him.
I am not saying relationships (Marriage) is not important, because it is. If not God would not have been speaking about it. But what I am trying to say is that it should never be a priority in your walk with God. And it should NOT be a selling point for a relationship with God. By emphasising so much on relationships and marriage, promising people a ‘Happy and Perfect’ relationship and marriage we are dream sellers. The Bible doesn’t say that and God doesn’t promise it either.
We don’t even need to ‘sell’ Christianity because God can do that on His own. What I want is for us to make our relationship with God the one and only priority. Marriage, Wealth and the rest will all be a by-product of our walk with God. That Walk is the Priority.
So I listened to this spoken word the other day and it had me thinking…I started thinking about life and all the little bits of history I can remember, from school and my studies. I thought about my life, my past, humanity and everything else, and do you know what conclusion I came up with? A Question: What is Truly Real?
I look at my younger siblings and I realise that they are growing older every day, with mouths that are getting sharper as well. I’ve made a couple new friends but I’ve realised that the old ones never stay. I walked past my secondary school, the other day, and realised how much has changed. It had me reminiscing and concluding that nothing is the same. Then I looked down at my feet, and realised even my trainers are getting older every day. Last year’s swag is irrelevant today, fashion never remains the same. In fact, I have concluded that nothing is the same.
So I picked up my phone and couldn’t even think of who to call, to be honest I don’t have anybody. Have you realised that no one is down for you all the time. I mean friends, family, mentors…..everyone has their own life. Those people that you think are down for you will leave you behind like a broken iPhone. Nothing is consistent. The ONLY thing that remains the same is GOD.
I mean Blair was Prime Minister before, then Brown and now Cameron. They are all trying to make a difference so nothing remains the same. When I look at my home town the buildings I grew up with have all been knocked down and replaced with new ones. Pubs turned into supermarkets, even barbers come and go. The ONLY thing that remains the same is GOD.
People are dying all the time; from stabbings, to shootings to sicknesses. The most common one of them all is cancer. Chaos happening every day; corruptions in our government, schools even in our churches. People are being killed on the streets and now even in our churches. All around us the devil is calling, the news is getting more and more ridiculous every day. We are hearing more about earthquakes, hurricanes and tsunamis, which are wiping out thousands of people at a time. The ONLY one that you can trust is GOD.
I remember heel and toe, then the dougie & jerk….fast forward to alanta then azonto, alkayda, kukere, naynay then shoki. Can you even still do any of the previous ones?
There is no consistency; whatever you thought you knew will probably be replaced by the turn of the New Year. God is the only one that remains the same, yesterday, today and forever.
The funny thing is, people say that God might not be real. But I tell you now that He’s the ONLY thing that is. If you look at your life, consider your purpose for living. The money that you strive for, the wealth that you hunger and thirst for soon fade. Take a drive by a junk yard and have a look at what you see. Each item in that junk yard was once somebody’s dream. Each item was once a reason that, someone worked long hours to finance and now it is just junk. Nothing lasts forever the ONLY thing that does, is GOD.
I was playing monopoly the other day with some friends. And if you know me, you’d know that I can be quite competitive. So I greedily took a strong hold of the board, buying all the expensive locations and building hotels on each of them. It was only a matter of time till everyone else was bankrupt. At the end of the game as I packed all the stuff away, putting the money back in the bank, the buildings back in their location I realised something. Everything is going back to where it started until the game is reopened again for another group to play, and they will have a fresh start. This is life!
Everything that you are fighting for, all the physical and materialistic achievements that you are having sleepless nights over, they’ll all one day get passed on to someone else. In fact, some of us work 40+ hours a week. When we get paid the money enters our accounts, and quickly leaves again either in the name of bills or life expenses. What do we really have that will last forever? Not our breath, not even the body that we live in. All of these will pass away. The only thing that sticks is our soul.
And that’s what Jesus died for, your soul. To give you a purpose, to give you a reason to live, something that will last outside the bonds of time. The only thing that will matter are the things that we do for Christ.
So you can continue to live for the now, live for your money, live for the pleasure that the moment gives. But, when you are on your death bed and you look back at your life, tell me if it was all worth it.
I encourage all the Brothers and Men to Read this and Be Blessed
So, I was talking with a few Brothers the other day and one of them said “Why’s it that only ugly girls are Christians…” I almost choked on saliva after that comment. Listen, Mans understanding of beauty is based on the world’s ideology, so why does it surprise you that the worldly ideology only acknowledges those who are not walking with God.Your worldly ideology is predominantly based on sexual (physical) appeal. And you can’t judge my Christian sisters with such ideology.
Unless you are in Christ your blind eyes cannot comprehend the beauty of my sisters.
Sisters, never allow yourself to feel any sort of way. They don’t acknowledge you are beautiful because you don’t walk around half naked and fit into the worldly ideology. But in the eyes of God you are Fearfully and Wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) and your beauty far supersedes their lustful eyes.
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30 NKJV)
Sisters, you don’t appeal to them because you are not wrapped in charm, you true beauty comes from your close relationship with Jesus, His Light shines through you, making you so beautiful the world can’t even begin to comprehend this.
So I decided to ask a few sisters in Christ to share their personal opinions on this topic. Here are their replies…
Read and be blessed….
Regarding the statement that Christian ladies are unattractive, as farfetched and preposterous as it may seem to some, it really doesn’t shock me. Light can be seen as a disturbance in dark room after all. So I don’t expect every guy living in darkness to understand the radiance a Christian lady may give off, rather than beauty their radiance may be interpreted as alien. Like when a bright light comes on in a dark room we cover our eyes. The eye of any male that can generalise all Christian females in that sense is simply covered because he has chosen not to see the light.
“a buff girl is an investment. That’s my baby mum una ”
Well my friend. Looks aren’t everything. I mean, why would you make an investment in obtaining something that is subject to change and is only going to perish?
Ask yourself why you are subconsciously seeking for something that looks appealing (the way it does) in probably just your eyes, if there’s a guarantee it’s going to one day not look as good as it does now.
An investment is only an investment if you’re gaining more than what you put in.
The body is perishable so it makes no sense to prioritise the investment into it.” A wise man will invest into the eternal soul as much as the lustful man invests in the body. ”
Beauty means to give great satisfaction and pleasure. & if you ask me the joy of The Lord being a woman’s strength translating as a radiant smile & the desire to magnify the kingdom & loving others as you love yourself regardless of what they do is satisfactory and creates pleasure.
Therefore ‘Every’ woman aiming to be Christ like is beautiful. ‘No’ she’s not a symbol of sex or does she represent society’s ideology but she’s beautiful.
Quite frankly I feel sorry for any man that can’t see it. He is blind. He has robbed himself of good thing.
Because of my relationship with God, I love who I am. Who am I not to? He created me in His own image, beautiful and unique. If someone else can’t see that, that is not my problem. I don’t do my make up or dress a particular way to please others. I believe in my slay.
Just because I don’t have a big bum or big breasts, or my hips are child-bearing wide doesn’t mean I’m not beautiful. True, long lasting beauty comes from within, real men know this. I’ve met some beautiful women who have such ugly personalities. Are you shallow enough to be with her just because of her looks?
Women of God, don’t feel like you have to flaunt your body parts in life or online to get attention. As scripture says we are all fearfully and wonderfully made. We don’t need to conform to worldly ideologies to get attention. Those men are not men of God if you have to flash a bit of flesh to get them. They should be concerned about your inner you.
Besides I know, that the man God has set aside for me, is for me and he will love me the way I am. He understands that it is my love for God and my desire to serve Him that counts. Not my bra size. Godly men, look at her character to determine her beauty. Godly women, work on your character, physical beauty does not last…
Your character is what should be the focus, as God refines it day by day and purifies your heart to be more like His, you should count it as the main source of your beauty. The character of a Godly woman doesn’t have to be understood on a wordly level immediately, but it will remain there as a radiation of what Christ did on the cross to every person you encounter because of your gentleness, compassion and purity. It is so easy to become distracted or disheartened when guys criticize or reject the beauty that you know God is blossoming within you. It’s inner beauty that is challenged daily, is fed by The Word and focuses on being a servant for Christ. The heart of a woman who knows who she is in Christ is treasured, not because of its own content but because it is valued by God Himself as He dwells in everything she does. You are called to be set apart for His glory, not for boys to manipulate you into anything they desire but the reflecting image of Jesus. You are the bride of Christ – your worthiness and your royalty don’t come from this world, they are of unfading heavenly value that no man can reform.
When the proverbs says charm is deceitful and beauty is in vain it doesn’t mean we should not care for our bodies or that external appearance is being condemned. The Bible speaks of it in a Carnal and earthly sense a charm that would provoke men that will appeal to the flesh and not the spirit.
You shouldn’t be the reason another man stumbles in his walk anyway.
Romans 14:21-22 clearly states that if what you’re doing causes another believer to stumble don’t do it. Your beauty is worth more than what you reveal to the world.
If revealing your body, wearing certain outfits, doing your makeup a particular way is what the world thinks beauty is, it’s ok because though we are in the world we are not of the world. What God classifies as beauty is a woman who fears the Lord. It’s good to be beautiful but your identity is not simply in the physical beauty that we possess.
Your beauty is in Christ.
The woman who prays, daily listens to the word, the woman who sets God before herself in her heart, actively seeks him, the kind and gentle spirit, she is beautiful. You are beautiful How can one know true beauty if they don’t know the one who created it? That’s why beauty lies in him not in the world. Anything God touches is beautiful and he touched you so guess what that means! A woman that feareth the Lord. That is a gift. Sisters you are a gift. The Bible says she shall be praised. Whose praise is better?
A mere mortal that can be here one day and gone the next, or the King of Kings and Lord of lords whose reward will be greater. Who can find a virtuous woman for her worth is far above rubies. Y’all know rubies is really expensive but for the bible to say we are worth more. That just reminds you how valuable you are. Rubies are precious. Sisters you are more precious than that. Continue to cloth yourself in dignity and chase the Lord with all your might. For it is better to hear well done good and faithful servant than yo sexy or raa your looking real buff you know.
In Samuel 1 16:7 the Lord said to Samuel “Do not consider his appearance or his height for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at”. Samuel looked at Eliab (David’s brother) and thought this must be the one. Samuel was using his eyes to determine who God will anoint as the King but God said I don’t look at those things, I look at the heart. God doesn’t call you based on your appearance or what is on your outside, he calls you because he sees what is in your heart. The world may pass you by because you might not fit their definition of beauty, but see yourself as God sees you ‘fearfully and wonderfully made’. People may judge you on your outward appearance, but they are not the creator of beauty. God is.
You are a daughter of God or a son of God, this means you are beautiful in his sight as he created you in his image. There can be nothing ugly in his kingdom as all that God created was good. Your beauty does not come from Man’s eyes but God looking into your heart. The reason why God chose David was not because he had a handsome appearance but because God was pleased with his heart. He was God’s beloved as he had a dear heart. Look into the heart and that is where you’ll find true beauty. We are all God’s David’s and Davina’s- beloved and beautiful in his sight.
Thank You and God Bless you all…
Really and truly eggs have nothing to do with this blog 😂
I know I haven’t blogged in like a month but I caught a revelation this morning and I feel the urge to share what I learned. I hope and pray that this blog encourages in you, and that you will be not condemned (because there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ) but convicted to make the right choices…
So recently I tripped up. I relaxed, let my guard down and messed up BIG TIME. But in my mistake I understood the importance of what it is to be equally yoked when in a relationship.
The Bible talks about you know, not getting into relationships with those who are not believers in God. Because you as a man or woman of God, will have a hard time pursuing God and His purpose for your life if…
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